I think I would have noticed differences much sooner if my community as a whole hadn't been so egalitarian. As it is I didn't leave until I was nearly 21 and then I didn't move to an area where egalitarianism and a gender neutral upbringing ISN'T the norm until this past year (I'm 24 in September). So I still have problems recognising that not *everyone* was lucky enough to be allowed to be themselves from a very young age. Hell, I have problems noticing that I'm doing something socially unacceptable because to me a man knitting isn't a big deal.